It's almost the new year, and I want to focus on good habits. The first one being forward-looking.
There are many things out of my control, such as when I will move on from this job. So, rather than focus on the status quo, I want to stay positive and change what I can.
The first is to network more. I just read about the Residential Builders Association in San Francisco in the newspaper and how they were the entity opposing some of the increased fees for residential developers.
Task list: find out as much as I can and possibly join the organization. First step: their website is under construction. Second step: found phone number and address. Third step: to contact the organization directly.
See, as soon as I move, there is no time to dwell on the status quo but to move forward.
I don't want to waste my most precious resource, my mental energy, on worrying or negative thoughts. My mental energy is to gather and to direct the other resources at my disposal: time, money, people and information.
So, in this last work day of 2006, I can look back with satisfaction that much has been done. Now I eager look forward and cannot wait for this next chapter of my life to begin.
Friday, December 29, 2006
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
that little thrill
So my adventure on match is in full swing (no pun intended!). If any of it works out, then I am going to have to edit out all these posts, so read it while you can! hahaha.
Actually, these are just meant to be hypothesis about how this online dating is suppose to work.
I like online dating b/c the beginning is quite superficial and is all fate. I like the way someone looks or write, boom, I wink back. The initial rejections or non-responses are all taken in good humor, nothing personal.
First things first. The profile. Having edited others' and getting comments on mine, the profile needs to be short and positive. Nothing too long b/c it will just seem long-winded. Personally, I appreciate the profiles that reveal nothing specific yet gives a good picture of what the person is like.
Then, after making the initial contact, it's the e-mailing. You are just trying to get to the point where you'll meet. I am not a big fan of e-mailing, since it's all useless until you meet. Chemistry is the one thing that the web has not replaced. So many people write for eons only to be disappointed by the first date. Get thee to the first date.
I might be meeting someone this week already. Fun!
Actually, these are just meant to be hypothesis about how this online dating is suppose to work.
I like online dating b/c the beginning is quite superficial and is all fate. I like the way someone looks or write, boom, I wink back. The initial rejections or non-responses are all taken in good humor, nothing personal.
First things first. The profile. Having edited others' and getting comments on mine, the profile needs to be short and positive. Nothing too long b/c it will just seem long-winded. Personally, I appreciate the profiles that reveal nothing specific yet gives a good picture of what the person is like.
Then, after making the initial contact, it's the e-mailing. You are just trying to get to the point where you'll meet. I am not a big fan of e-mailing, since it's all useless until you meet. Chemistry is the one thing that the web has not replaced. So many people write for eons only to be disappointed by the first date. Get thee to the first date.
I might be meeting someone this week already. Fun!
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
am I boring you
Today, a friend suggested that I write about some of my useful tips about SF. Why? Is all this musing not useful to you?
For instance, when in SOMA, take Howard and Folsom rather than Mission, Harrison or Bryant because the lights are rigged to be green on those two streets. Every neighborhood in SF have the street(s) where the lights are timed to be green all the time.
Most people know about Fell and Oak. There is Sutter and Bush, Fulton (not Geary), Lincoln (not Irving), Van Ness in the Mission, etc. The trick is to know how to speed or slow down your car in order to hit all the green lights.
Or the shortcuts. Try some of the bus routes. Usually the bus routes are to avoid traffic jams. For instance, the 12 and the 10 bus go to the left lane on Folsom to avoid traffic going to the 80 Eastbound during commute hours.
The list is endless, but it's more fun for each person to discover them rather than me writing them down. Then again, maybe these are things people want to read??
For instance, when in SOMA, take Howard and Folsom rather than Mission, Harrison or Bryant because the lights are rigged to be green on those two streets. Every neighborhood in SF have the street(s) where the lights are timed to be green all the time.
Most people know about Fell and Oak. There is Sutter and Bush, Fulton (not Geary), Lincoln (not Irving), Van Ness in the Mission, etc. The trick is to know how to speed or slow down your car in order to hit all the green lights.
Or the shortcuts. Try some of the bus routes. Usually the bus routes are to avoid traffic jams. For instance, the 12 and the 10 bus go to the left lane on Folsom to avoid traffic going to the 80 Eastbound during commute hours.
The list is endless, but it's more fun for each person to discover them rather than me writing them down. Then again, maybe these are things people want to read??
Monday, December 25, 2006
how do you really know?
One question I wonder about is why so many people want to settle down. Is it something they really want, or is it merely peer pressure. It seems to be that more people are Lemmings than truly independent thinkers.
After all, how can you really want something if you never had it? How can people tell me that they want to have a significant other or a family when they may not know all the consequences of these choices?
I meet and at times date men who want to have a partner, yet most of them just want someone to fulfill their own goals. A partner is another human beings who have her own objectives too. I have not yet met a man who really want to compromise, at least not with an opinionated person like me.
Is that even possible, or am I just dating the wrong people? Is it Darwinism to try to find that one person who will help you achieve your goals, or is it merely how society has trained us to look at life partners?
Much of it is patterning after our parents. My parents are so giving that I see how my siblings definitely give more to their partners. It's one of the unresolved issues for the family: are we destined to put ourselves behind our partners because that's how my parents have taught us?
I was overly giving in many of my relationships, but now that my determination to achieve certain professional and personal goals is so great, I cannot even have a relationship. Or can I? Who will be that one person willin to compromise with me, or will I always give too much because that is my destiny? Ironic that my focus on my career will ensure that my future relationships will be more balanced than my siblings'.
After all, how can you really want something if you never had it? How can people tell me that they want to have a significant other or a family when they may not know all the consequences of these choices?
I meet and at times date men who want to have a partner, yet most of them just want someone to fulfill their own goals. A partner is another human beings who have her own objectives too. I have not yet met a man who really want to compromise, at least not with an opinionated person like me.
Is that even possible, or am I just dating the wrong people? Is it Darwinism to try to find that one person who will help you achieve your goals, or is it merely how society has trained us to look at life partners?
Much of it is patterning after our parents. My parents are so giving that I see how my siblings definitely give more to their partners. It's one of the unresolved issues for the family: are we destined to put ourselves behind our partners because that's how my parents have taught us?
I was overly giving in many of my relationships, but now that my determination to achieve certain professional and personal goals is so great, I cannot even have a relationship. Or can I? Who will be that one person willin to compromise with me, or will I always give too much because that is my destiny? Ironic that my focus on my career will ensure that my future relationships will be more balanced than my siblings'.
the perfect place
Being single in my 30s is absolutely wonderful! Who knew that dating would be so much better now than ever?
My own theory is that the pool of women in their 30s who are 1) financially independent, 2) not desparate to settle down, and 3) not psycho is so small that I actually have an advantage on the dating scene.
Yes, it helps to be fit. Still, I pity all the women who listened to their mothers and settled down before they have a chance to truly enjoy the best era of a woman's life: her 30s!!
The other night, I decided to eat by myself on a Saturday night, so I did. It was a lovely meal, and I didn't feel anything negative about dining alone. I am just too old to be wasting time having or indulging in negative emotions.
There are bigger fish to fry. I have so many big dreams right now that I cannot be bothered with useless yet common thoughts about not having a man. I am truly in a perfect place because my life is going to be a rocket taking off. I already have so much good accompany along for the ride that I don't mind not having a co-pilot for now. It's time to focus and make all my dreams come true!
My own theory is that the pool of women in their 30s who are 1) financially independent, 2) not desparate to settle down, and 3) not psycho is so small that I actually have an advantage on the dating scene.
Yes, it helps to be fit. Still, I pity all the women who listened to their mothers and settled down before they have a chance to truly enjoy the best era of a woman's life: her 30s!!
The other night, I decided to eat by myself on a Saturday night, so I did. It was a lovely meal, and I didn't feel anything negative about dining alone. I am just too old to be wasting time having or indulging in negative emotions.
There are bigger fish to fry. I have so many big dreams right now that I cannot be bothered with useless yet common thoughts about not having a man. I am truly in a perfect place because my life is going to be a rocket taking off. I already have so much good accompany along for the ride that I don't mind not having a co-pilot for now. It's time to focus and make all my dreams come true!
Sunday, December 24, 2006
right back at me
Had to confront the pressure that I impose on others when I pursue.
Ouch. That hurts.
Sorry to all the men that I push against the wall. My defense is that I was so taken with you!
Fortunately, that is no longer possible now, with this new life where I have less time. Given the importance I place on relationships, I don't want one right now. Anyone, man or woman, who thinks that I can be this ideal friend/significant other to them is mistaken.
It is all timing.
Next experiment: match. Should be fun!
Ouch. That hurts.
Sorry to all the men that I push against the wall. My defense is that I was so taken with you!
Fortunately, that is no longer possible now, with this new life where I have less time. Given the importance I place on relationships, I don't want one right now. Anyone, man or woman, who thinks that I can be this ideal friend/significant other to them is mistaken.
It is all timing.
Next experiment: match. Should be fun!
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