One question I wonder about is why so many people want to settle down. Is it something they really want, or is it merely peer pressure. It seems to be that more people are Lemmings than truly independent thinkers.
After all, how can you really want something if you never had it? How can people tell me that they want to have a significant other or a family when they may not know all the consequences of these choices?
I meet and at times date men who want to have a partner, yet most of them just want someone to fulfill their own goals. A partner is another human beings who have her own objectives too. I have not yet met a man who really want to compromise, at least not with an opinionated person like me.
Is that even possible, or am I just dating the wrong people? Is it Darwinism to try to find that one person who will help you achieve your goals, or is it merely how society has trained us to look at life partners?
Much of it is patterning after our parents. My parents are so giving that I see how my siblings definitely give more to their partners. It's one of the unresolved issues for the family: are we destined to put ourselves behind our partners because that's how my parents have taught us?
I was overly giving in many of my relationships, but now that my determination to achieve certain professional and personal goals is so great, I cannot even have a relationship. Or can I? Who will be that one person willin to compromise with me, or will I always give too much because that is my destiny? Ironic that my focus on my career will ensure that my future relationships will be more balanced than my siblings'.
