This has been a good week of connections.
A friend from SoCal came up for a retreat with her sister, and I met her for coffee for a couple of hours Thursday night. She didn't have the best time at the retreat, so she was especially appreciative of my company. I was the one who was grateful for her company! She is a professor (one year away from tenure!) at a Cal State university. We met while she was aphD and myself a masters student.
The two hours together wasn't long, but it made me happier than usual at the speed dating event.
Then, going down to San Jose was a way to see my brother and sister-in-law who are consumed by their new home for the moment. I'm so proud of them, always figuring out how to finance and execute all their dreams.
Quite a few friends came out for drinks with me Fri night, so it was good to chill.
My girlfriend D hosted the party, and the gender ratio was terrible. At least D had a good time with all the attention. It as 7 to 25... At one point, C's SO went to get me a drink, and immediately, two guys swooped in. I was able to clue the one next to me that she's taken as they both turned on the charm. C and I had to excuse ourselves to go find her guy.
I wasn't in the mood to chit chat, so a couple of girlfriends and I headed to another club to dance instead. It was a blast. Got to cherish these moments of dancing w/girlfriends!
This morning, on my way home, I had breakfast with a City girl married to a South Bay guy. It was wonderful to catch up. We got into business ideas. Yes, this year (my b-day is around the corner, so my years start in June) is more focus on making money. Selling my car was a good start. What's next?!
Saturday, June 09, 2007
Thursday, June 07, 2007
reporting back
Just got back from the speed dating event. Wow, the people are so young. Okay, so my friend's friend, the organizer, was desparate. Yikes, what a way to make a living. Despite her efforts, about 3 guys had to sit out in each round as it is.
Still, better odds for most of these guys! Several were from the South Bay, and a lot were so straight-laced. One guy was kind of a jerk, but probably b/c he was too buzzed.
Overall, good event, since it was very diverse, both ethnicity and geography. Good practice, but no connection for me. Just one guy stood out, but he lives in Sunnyvale and is young, maybe 5 years younger.
It's just another experience. I don't spend all that much time judging experiences. Just have to get up and go.
Side note. My mind is stuck on someone in my past. We started to e-mail again, but I am not going to do anything. Dating has been easier of late b/c the guy makes the first move. Learning from salsa that it's easier to respond to signals. For now, focusing on studying...
Still, better odds for most of these guys! Several were from the South Bay, and a lot were so straight-laced. One guy was kind of a jerk, but probably b/c he was too buzzed.
Overall, good event, since it was very diverse, both ethnicity and geography. Good practice, but no connection for me. Just one guy stood out, but he lives in Sunnyvale and is young, maybe 5 years younger.
It's just another experience. I don't spend all that much time judging experiences. Just have to get up and go.
Side note. My mind is stuck on someone in my past. We started to e-mail again, but I am not going to do anything. Dating has been easier of late b/c the guy makes the first move. Learning from salsa that it's easier to respond to signals. For now, focusing on studying...
go w/it
A friend just called about an hour ago, asking if I am willing to go to a speed dating event to even up the gender ratio.
I am actually a bit too old for the party tonight, but that's b/t you and me.
Good thing I have done this before. Got my list of questions. I usually ask people to pick a number between 1-7 and have a pre-printed list of questions. It's a lot more interesting than where are you from, where did you go to school, zzzz...
I always have a surprise question. One that is the funny one. Tonight's question is what makes a woman hot. Let's hope most people pick that one.
I'll report back later. Should be a good night, since they are making the ratio more even. BTW, this is also a mixed race event.
I am actually a bit too old for the party tonight, but that's b/t you and me.
Good thing I have done this before. Got my list of questions. I usually ask people to pick a number between 1-7 and have a pre-printed list of questions. It's a lot more interesting than where are you from, where did you go to school, zzzz...
I always have a surprise question. One that is the funny one. Tonight's question is what makes a woman hot. Let's hope most people pick that one.
I'll report back later. Should be a good night, since they are making the ratio more even. BTW, this is also a mixed race event.
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
rules are meant to be...
...tested.
Sometimes rules are necessary for safety and order, and I am good at following. At times, I follow the rules so well that I can then bend the rules.
The few struggles that I have in life are due to attempts to create my own set of rules. The light bulb went on today: I am truly happy because I figure out for myself which rules to follow and which ones to bend.
Rules of dating are easy to bend because it's more about getting to the core of who people are rather than societal rules about men and women (in the hetero dating world). The reason why I can date players and the needy people for a while because I know how to engage at their level.
Career is tougher because the rules are more linear. Still, by making unconventional choices, I have gotten so much out of my professional paths. I am grateful for the challenges, but ultimately I want a job that reflects the core of who I am.
I am proud of my life. The present balance is an accurate reflection of my true self. Even this pride is a careful balance between egotism and humility.
My life's mission is the prefect balance of opposites. My ability to move easily between two extremes allows me to freely express any mood at any given moment. The executive, the admin. The serious adult, the gleeful child. The foreigner, the American. The philosopher, the athlete.
Having twice as many roles means that I have to make time for more life experiences. Making time is the number one priority right now. Having fun is equally important because that's how my subconscious mind can appear and recharge my physical and intellectual selves.
Enough esoteric musings. Off to salsa class and then gym...
Sometimes rules are necessary for safety and order, and I am good at following. At times, I follow the rules so well that I can then bend the rules.
The few struggles that I have in life are due to attempts to create my own set of rules. The light bulb went on today: I am truly happy because I figure out for myself which rules to follow and which ones to bend.
Rules of dating are easy to bend because it's more about getting to the core of who people are rather than societal rules about men and women (in the hetero dating world). The reason why I can date players and the needy people for a while because I know how to engage at their level.
Career is tougher because the rules are more linear. Still, by making unconventional choices, I have gotten so much out of my professional paths. I am grateful for the challenges, but ultimately I want a job that reflects the core of who I am.
I am proud of my life. The present balance is an accurate reflection of my true self. Even this pride is a careful balance between egotism and humility.
My life's mission is the prefect balance of opposites. My ability to move easily between two extremes allows me to freely express any mood at any given moment. The executive, the admin. The serious adult, the gleeful child. The foreigner, the American. The philosopher, the athlete.
Having twice as many roles means that I have to make time for more life experiences. Making time is the number one priority right now. Having fun is equally important because that's how my subconscious mind can appear and recharge my physical and intellectual selves.
Enough esoteric musings. Off to salsa class and then gym...
Monday, June 04, 2007
looking back...
In my effort to leave the current job, I completely lost sight of enjoying the current work experience.
On my daily commute, I pass a large public housing project, and I was reminded of when I was a volunteer attorney for a few residents there.
It was odd to walk into these subsidized housing that were never meant to be permanent. Besides the dilapidated physical environment, the residents face constant problems with neighbors and the public housing authority. My role was to ensure that some of these residents didn't end up on the streets while dealing with landlord-tenant issues.
My work is so different now, but the commitment to be the best hasn't changed. I am reminded of having and serving my purpose.
I am grateful that my life is so magical. If my only issue is not finding a soulmate, then I am indeed lucky.
Monday. Back to work. Should be a quick week. Will be studying like mad for the next 3 weeks.
On my daily commute, I pass a large public housing project, and I was reminded of when I was a volunteer attorney for a few residents there.
It was odd to walk into these subsidized housing that were never meant to be permanent. Besides the dilapidated physical environment, the residents face constant problems with neighbors and the public housing authority. My role was to ensure that some of these residents didn't end up on the streets while dealing with landlord-tenant issues.
My work is so different now, but the commitment to be the best hasn't changed. I am reminded of having and serving my purpose.
I am grateful that my life is so magical. If my only issue is not finding a soulmate, then I am indeed lucky.
Monday. Back to work. Should be a quick week. Will be studying like mad for the next 3 weeks.
Sunday, June 03, 2007
cancelation
Never thought I would have this day, but I went with my gut and canceled two planned events.
One was a lunch with a group of six girlfriends, and the other was a dinner party at a friend's place.
Both were out of the the City, and some weekends, I just want to stay in SF.
Once again, I am changing. Like how some things are constant, other things change. It does take more understanding from the people in my life. Ironic b/c most of my friends have gone through their major life changes and are settling down while I am still on the upward climb.
Right now, it's the steepest part fo the hill, and I am embracing the ascend.
One was a lunch with a group of six girlfriends, and the other was a dinner party at a friend's place.
Both were out of the the City, and some weekends, I just want to stay in SF.
Once again, I am changing. Like how some things are constant, other things change. It does take more understanding from the people in my life. Ironic b/c most of my friends have gone through their major life changes and are settling down while I am still on the upward climb.
Right now, it's the steepest part fo the hill, and I am embracing the ascend.
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