off center

Ouch. I got canker sores last week for the first time in my life. Canker sores are holes in the mouth, usually on the roof of the mouth, the side of the mouth, or under the tongue. They feel the same as if getting burned from drinking hot things. The most common cause is stress.

Is this is a sign that I have to get a new job? There are just too many issues at work, but I am still learning.

What to do?

Am trying to see the reason behind this experience. For one thing, I am seeing myself more clearly than ever. By pushing myself to the limit, I understand my limitations and my values.

I know now that I can never value work, money or status over health and spirituality. Like a bad relationship going sour, I take responsibilities for my situation and intend to make the necessary changes to be centered again.

three little words

Witnessed first-hand how three little words can communicate a powerful message today. I have many meetings each week, and often times, the meetings are between men who want to assert their power.

I don't always agree with the style or the message, but it is insightful to observe how people attempt to sell an idea or to sway people. Body language is important, and so is intent (don't let them see you sweat!). The key though, is in articulation.

I have a long way to go before becoming close to being artful in my speech. In some ways, this job is such a blessing in what to do and what NOT to do.

So, let these three words be used selective but often enough to buy some points:

You are right.

to wonder, not expect

One reason I love being single is the uncertainty of it all. I don’t know what I am going to do after work in a couple of weeks. I don’t know if I will stay at the same address five years from now. I don’t know if the person I am dating will be there in another month.

Uncertainty has been very healthy. I am forced to connect with people...Never know when I need some company!

Not knowing what's going to happen also resulted in a lot more investment in myself, especially in health and knowledge. No matter what happens, at least I can count on my mind and my body.

The lack of responsibilities has been so liberating. I can take more risks because the consequences don't affect other people. Yes, it is a lot of work to plan and to fill in all the time. Hopefully as work kicks into overdrive this year, life will be balaced once again.

Now, if I can only get rid of the uncertainty in getting dressed each morning...