I really need to get my broken camera issue resolved. Saw this couple hugging right in the middle of Financial District today and wished I had a camera to capture their infatuation for one another. What was even more cute was the way the woman was slightly embarrassed.
They are definitely in that beginning lovey-dovey stage. It got me to think, hey, I have had more of those moments than anyone I know, since I tend to end things when it starts to go downhill but before they crash and burn. Yet I can always jump right back into dating w/o the baggage or the fear.
In that instant, I was glad for my life. Rather than focusing on all the issues of a marriage or a serious relationship, which I did in the past, I can just enjoy those sweet moments. Why be conventional and settle down before I am good and ready? If it's meant to be, that next guy is going to be the one!
Thursday, May 24, 2007
the best manager...
...is not always the nicest. That person is the most respected. Sometimes a manager has to make difficult choices for the good of the team.
After hearing that advice at a b-school forum two nights ago, I put theory to practice.
I urged my General Manager not to be nice but to be fair in a matter. He is so nice that he always end up doing more work or put the company at risk.
I like to think that I am a nice person, but I also want to do the right thing.
Sometimes being right requires disappointing people who were expecting too much. Hey, that's what dating is all about.
:D
After hearing that advice at a b-school forum two nights ago, I put theory to practice.
I urged my General Manager not to be nice but to be fair in a matter. He is so nice that he always end up doing more work or put the company at risk.
I like to think that I am a nice person, but I also want to do the right thing.
Sometimes being right requires disappointing people who were expecting too much. Hey, that's what dating is all about.
:D
Monday, May 21, 2007
from my match profile - active again
Welcome! You are now entering the sphere where good things happen.
This is a place where laughter is the universal language, and everyone knows just what to do upon arrival. Life is easy here because this is where preparation meets opportunity.
Success happens much more than failure because each person is confident in following intuition. Everyone constantly learns in order to make wiser choices.
The goal is that perfect balance of work, play and relationships. All three requires diligence, faith and creativity. Other key values include friendship, fun and upmost respect for one another.
What you will not find here: unrealistic expectations and fear. Expectations oppose the values of acceptance and understanding. Fear negates communications. Rather than wanting what is not there and being afraid of what is true, simply enjoy the moment and the answers will reveal themselves.
Good luck. May you find what you seek.
This is a place where laughter is the universal language, and everyone knows just what to do upon arrival. Life is easy here because this is where preparation meets opportunity.
Success happens much more than failure because each person is confident in following intuition. Everyone constantly learns in order to make wiser choices.
The goal is that perfect balance of work, play and relationships. All three requires diligence, faith and creativity. Other key values include friendship, fun and upmost respect for one another.
What you will not find here: unrealistic expectations and fear. Expectations oppose the values of acceptance and understanding. Fear negates communications. Rather than wanting what is not there and being afraid of what is true, simply enjoy the moment and the answers will reveal themselves.
Good luck. May you find what you seek.
silicon valley syndrom
Carpooled with friends down to the hike Sunday, and on the way back, we talked about how the Valley's culture is different.
It's driven, and that's a turn-off.
Maybe it's the fact that the young people are relatively isolated from families and people in other age groups. The way people get to know one another is to show off their latest gadgets and to list their professional and financial accomplishments.
Even the restaurant owner had a conversation with us about someone's new Blackjack.
Where are the people into intrinsic things like culture and acceptance?
It's driven, and that's a turn-off.
Maybe it's the fact that the young people are relatively isolated from families and people in other age groups. The way people get to know one another is to show off their latest gadgets and to list their professional and financial accomplishments.
Even the restaurant owner had a conversation with us about someone's new Blackjack.
Where are the people into intrinsic things like culture and acceptance?
the day that restored me
After 5 hours of hiking through the "moderate" Pinnacles trail, I was exhausted but also completely clear about life again. Answered many of my own questions too.
Definitely need to hike more before the Peru trip.
Sunday, May 20, 2007
new journey
Between the breakup and the potential job offer, I didn't get sick but was feeling down. I know everything is meant to be, but I need the signs to convince me.
And then they appeared.
First, found buyers for my car. It's not all finalized, but it's as good as done. By pricing the car fair, it was an easy sell. Yet another female driver who is going to baby the car.
Second, discovered the perfect pair of nightstand lamps at a consignment shop. Been looking for over a year. For those who know me, that's perfection - recycle, save money, and not compromise on style.
Then, met someone who made me understood the breakup. No, it's not another guy.
In fact, it was a sweet woman. She reminded me of what being feminine is all about, and what's been missing in me lately - humility.
Being in her presence lifted me so much that I know I have a while to go before settling down.
Back to perfecting the practice of being a lady.
And then they appeared.
First, found buyers for my car. It's not all finalized, but it's as good as done. By pricing the car fair, it was an easy sell. Yet another female driver who is going to baby the car.
Second, discovered the perfect pair of nightstand lamps at a consignment shop. Been looking for over a year. For those who know me, that's perfection - recycle, save money, and not compromise on style.
Then, met someone who made me understood the breakup. No, it's not another guy.
In fact, it was a sweet woman. She reminded me of what being feminine is all about, and what's been missing in me lately - humility.
Being in her presence lifted me so much that I know I have a while to go before settling down.
Back to perfecting the practice of being a lady.
Friday, May 18, 2007
cheers
My monthly wine tasting ended up at District last night. I was all ready to scope out the men, except there were only two Asian guys the whole night outside of my three guy friends. Is Mission Bay the new Marina?!
Was explaining to my friend how this time around, I am going to go up to interesting men and talk to them. In the middle of that speech, the first Asian guy finished his drink and left. doh.
By the time M arrived, I was buzzed enough, and we tried to approach Asian guy number two. He appeared to be picking up a white chick, unsuccessfully. Felt bad because some how he went from standing behind her to getting her seat, and she was trying to leave. M & I went for a closer look, and I feel bad for saying this, but we dismissed him b/c we were not impressed by the woman.
Well, I had fun hanging out with my friends. It was a good group, 7 of us. The wine was excellent, and the food was better than most wine places. Just don't know if I like the crowd. I must have turned into one of these snobs. Must be diverse to impress me??
Was explaining to my friend how this time around, I am going to go up to interesting men and talk to them. In the middle of that speech, the first Asian guy finished his drink and left. doh.
By the time M arrived, I was buzzed enough, and we tried to approach Asian guy number two. He appeared to be picking up a white chick, unsuccessfully. Felt bad because some how he went from standing behind her to getting her seat, and she was trying to leave. M & I went for a closer look, and I feel bad for saying this, but we dismissed him b/c we were not impressed by the woman.
Well, I had fun hanging out with my friends. It was a good group, 7 of us. The wine was excellent, and the food was better than most wine places. Just don't know if I like the crowd. I must have turned into one of these snobs. Must be diverse to impress me??
Thursday, May 17, 2007
body, mind, spirit
Had my second private salsa lesson, and it was even better than the first. A different instructor, and we danced for a whole hour.
Instructional dancing is so unfamiliar. What? The guy is going to tell me what to do?! The first few times in open sessions were frustrating. Even the group lessons were discouraging.
Then, my friend A suggested private lessons. He has been dancing at studios for a couple of years and love it. He was right.
It's all about slowing everything down and watching for the signals.
Learning salsa got me to think about how I behave in life. I am so intuitive that I don't give much thought to the rules. Yet, knowing the rules (the dance moves) gives me more options in responding to the unexpected (the partner's signals). Only by easily conquering the everyday obstacles will I be able to focus on what's truly important - spiritual growth.
This next phase of life is all about learning the rules and arming myself with even more expertise in many areas...
Instructional dancing is so unfamiliar. What? The guy is going to tell me what to do?! The first few times in open sessions were frustrating. Even the group lessons were discouraging.
Then, my friend A suggested private lessons. He has been dancing at studios for a couple of years and love it. He was right.
It's all about slowing everything down and watching for the signals.
Learning salsa got me to think about how I behave in life. I am so intuitive that I don't give much thought to the rules. Yet, knowing the rules (the dance moves) gives me more options in responding to the unexpected (the partner's signals). Only by easily conquering the everyday obstacles will I be able to focus on what's truly important - spiritual growth.
This next phase of life is all about learning the rules and arming myself with even more expertise in many areas...
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
saying goodbye to my baby
1998 BMW Z3 Manual-Great Condition with only 70k miles
Always garaged. Rarely driven in the rain. It is in great condition, with regular 3K oil change and all recommended services. Services were done by Auto Repair Center, Noe Valley Auto and Advanced Auto Repair, all in the City. The past year services included all new tires, 60K service.
This is a 4-cylinder car which gets about 27 miles per gallon. Handles perfectly. It comes with all the extras: alarm, heated seats, chrome upgrade package, mesh wind blocker, CD changer and premium speakers. I'll also include the converter to play music with any mp3 player/iPod.
Other specs:
* Model year 1998
* 1.9 4-cylinder engine
* 70k miles
* 5-speed manual transmission
* Clean title
* Clean carfax
* No accidents
Monday, May 14, 2007
the things I am learning
“Volatile Organic Compounds” is defined as any chemical compound based on carbon chains or rings (and also containing hydrogen) with vapor pressure greater than 2mm of mercury (0.27 kPa) at 25° C, including without limitation industrial solvents, fuel oxygenates, by-products produced by chlorination of water treatment, and components of petroleum fuels, hydraulic fluids, paint thinners and dry cleaning agents. Volatile Organic Compounds specifically includes without limitation perchloroethylene (also commonly referred to as perchloroethene, tetrachloroethylene, tetrachloroethene, “PERC” or “PCE”), trichloroethylene (also commonly referred to as trichloroethene or “TCE”), trichloroethane (also commonly referred to as “TCA”) and vinyl chloride.
Slowly, I am being changed by work, and I welcome it. Just as all the relationships in my life has directed me to who I am meant to be, my professional life has always shaped me. Am excited about what's next. Second-round of interview coming up!
Slowly, I am being changed by work, and I welcome it. Just as all the relationships in my life has directed me to who I am meant to be, my professional life has always shaped me. Am excited about what's next. Second-round of interview coming up!
Saturday, May 12, 2007
ka-ching!
Cultivating friendships is the best rewards program.
While I was going through the ups and downs of this last little dating episode, my friends were there to help me stay balanced and sane.
By always making time for my friends, I have been able to draw upon their support when it matters the most.
I am past the point in my life where I need lots of advice. Instead, I just need people who know how to have a good time without any drama. In the last two days, I managed to go to happy hour, dinner w/girlfriend, Sat breakfast at the best bakery in the Mission, rollerblading on the Embarcadero, and my favorite, dancing tonight. All these friends just stepped in to have some fun with me.
Wait, that's life every week! So, it goes to show, that by knowing my priorities and maintaining the perfect balance, life moves along happily, man or no man. Yes, life would be even better with a partner, but that day will be here soon enough.
For now, I am one happy chica! Wheeeee!
While I was going through the ups and downs of this last little dating episode, my friends were there to help me stay balanced and sane.
By always making time for my friends, I have been able to draw upon their support when it matters the most.
I am past the point in my life where I need lots of advice. Instead, I just need people who know how to have a good time without any drama. In the last two days, I managed to go to happy hour, dinner w/girlfriend, Sat breakfast at the best bakery in the Mission, rollerblading on the Embarcadero, and my favorite, dancing tonight. All these friends just stepped in to have some fun with me.
Wait, that's life every week! So, it goes to show, that by knowing my priorities and maintaining the perfect balance, life moves along happily, man or no man. Yes, life would be even better with a partner, but that day will be here soon enough.
For now, I am one happy chica! Wheeeee!
Friday, May 11, 2007
being very single, again...
Even though I had a gut feeling to call it off with the latest guy, I stuck it out on the advice of several close friends. True, rarely does someone share my lifestyle and can be so much fun.
After one too many canceled dates, it's over.
As much as I want to be understanding, I am just beyond waiting for these boys to become men. Instead of making excuses and expect me to be understanding, why not just admit that you are not up to par?
Is it my fault that I am ready to settle down while you are still so juvenile?
True, I detest elitism, but when it comes to finding the perfect mate, I cannot help but be picky. If I am going to ask that my children emulate this man, shouldn't he be the most perfect human being that I connect with?
The irony. The more I am single, the more I have time and resources to perfect myself, while most of the men (and women) are wasting time stressed out about not having someone. Com'on. Come carrying me off to the sunset before I bench my own weight already! btw, I'm at 70% of my body weight on the bench.
Okay, hitting the gym. These staying-in Friday and Saturday nights are doing wonders for my fitness!!
Lastly, this is yet another example of risk everything and GAIN everything. The more I opened my heart, the more I was able to see the other person clearly. By letting go of myself and being completely attuned to him, I see how it's not meant to be. Feel blessed to move on w/o getting hurt, again. Peace.
After one too many canceled dates, it's over.
As much as I want to be understanding, I am just beyond waiting for these boys to become men. Instead of making excuses and expect me to be understanding, why not just admit that you are not up to par?
Is it my fault that I am ready to settle down while you are still so juvenile?
True, I detest elitism, but when it comes to finding the perfect mate, I cannot help but be picky. If I am going to ask that my children emulate this man, shouldn't he be the most perfect human being that I connect with?
The irony. The more I am single, the more I have time and resources to perfect myself, while most of the men (and women) are wasting time stressed out about not having someone. Com'on. Come carrying me off to the sunset before I bench my own weight already! btw, I'm at 70% of my body weight on the bench.
Okay, hitting the gym. These staying-in Friday and Saturday nights are doing wonders for my fitness!!
Lastly, this is yet another example of risk everything and GAIN everything. The more I opened my heart, the more I was able to see the other person clearly. By letting go of myself and being completely attuned to him, I see how it's not meant to be. Feel blessed to move on w/o getting hurt, again. Peace.
Thursday, May 10, 2007
still the mind
Seven of my library books arrived this week. Any CA resident can reserve and check books out from SF library system. I usually find books on Amazon and "order" through the library. The library delivers it right to the closest branch.
Dived right into the Dalai Lama's Ethics for the New Millennium. A refreshing change from all the LEED reading.
It occurred to me that I had forgotten to make time for myself in the last few months. It's been so much planning and doing that I haven't been still. I love the frenzy pace, but it's time to change and be still. Just as I am switching from snow sports to summer activities, it's time to reassess activities and people.
Wonder what's next...
Dived right into the Dalai Lama's Ethics for the New Millennium. A refreshing change from all the LEED reading.
It occurred to me that I had forgotten to make time for myself in the last few months. It's been so much planning and doing that I haven't been still. I love the frenzy pace, but it's time to change and be still. Just as I am switching from snow sports to summer activities, it's time to reassess activities and people.
Wonder what's next...
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
round one concluded
The interview was fine. I have the personality and the vision to fit in the firm. Ended up talking about how to make the land use legal business better.
Still, whether I can actually do the research and writing is on everyone's mind, including mine.
Let's see if I make it to the second round.
The irony was that my tentative date w/M was canceled b/c he worked late. That might be me soon enough...
Still, whether I can actually do the research and writing is on everyone's mind, including mine.
Let's see if I make it to the second round.
The irony was that my tentative date w/M was canceled b/c he worked late. That might be me soon enough...
Monday, May 07, 2007
priorities
I just turned down 2 tickets to the Sharks game tonight, and this just might be their last game this season. They are down 3-2 in the playoffs against the Detroit Red Wings.
That's how much the interview tomorrow means to me.
Sorry G, I said that I would take you...
That's how much the interview tomorrow means to me.
Sorry G, I said that I would take you...
Thursday, May 03, 2007
slowing down
Just left a message for a friend to back off of a mini-triathlon race. Although I believe in taking every opportunity that presents itself, it's time to slow down. Time to still the mind and grow the soul.
I finally had enough fun and want to take work and romance to the next level. That means going outside of my comfort zone.
The possibility of career change doesn't daunt me, but the idea of compromising with a man is scaring me to death. If it wasn't for C, I could have been single again tonight. It's tough to date someone who is so busy. Oh, I see...
All along, C & E are the two friends who have been supportive of the new guy. Why? I'll find out. Still 3 more dates planned. Got to give it to the guy - we usually end a date by planning another date, or he calls to make one.
I am always in such a rush that this take-it-slow thing is crazy. Good kind of crazy. It's like I am not going to know for sure if it's going work out until it works out. hehe. Will have to wait and see.
Before the slow down, one more trip to LA. Here we go!
I finally had enough fun and want to take work and romance to the next level. That means going outside of my comfort zone.
The possibility of career change doesn't daunt me, but the idea of compromising with a man is scaring me to death. If it wasn't for C, I could have been single again tonight. It's tough to date someone who is so busy. Oh, I see...
All along, C & E are the two friends who have been supportive of the new guy. Why? I'll find out. Still 3 more dates planned. Got to give it to the guy - we usually end a date by planning another date, or he calls to make one.
I am always in such a rush that this take-it-slow thing is crazy. Good kind of crazy. It's like I am not going to know for sure if it's going work out until it works out. hehe. Will have to wait and see.
Before the slow down, one more trip to LA. Here we go!
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
who i am
I used to think that I am so unique; I am the construct of my own creativity and efforts.
sort of...
Watching a good movie at the film festival tonight, and I see that I am an extension of my parents and quite proud of it.
For a long time, my only fear in life is that I will never be as great as my parents.
Tonight, I feel closer to stepping in their shoes. So much of who I am is them: my love of cities, the way I collect friends, and my joy. My parents have taught me so much about how to be a good person that I have hope that I will do great things.
Because the number one gift that my parents give me is the freedom to be myself.
sort of...
Watching a good movie at the film festival tonight, and I see that I am an extension of my parents and quite proud of it.
For a long time, my only fear in life is that I will never be as great as my parents.
Tonight, I feel closer to stepping in their shoes. So much of who I am is them: my love of cities, the way I collect friends, and my joy. My parents have taught me so much about how to be a good person that I have hope that I will do great things.
Because the number one gift that my parents give me is the freedom to be myself.
Monday, April 30, 2007
ready, set...
I am on a natural high from the best weekend I have ever had. Gave a site tour for work, watched good movies at the film festival, spent time with family, friends and the new guy. Found time for myself in the kitchen, at the gym and watched some playoff games.
So now I am going to rock the boat by changing jobs? Why change the status quo when life is perfect right now?
Because it's time to take career to the next level. Am I a fool for wanting so much more than what I have? I don’t know, but what I do know is that the perfection in my life outside of work makes me want to improve my career.
Many people are cautioning me about the potential stress of a legal career. It’s too soon to have worries. In fact, right now, I am just trying to land interviews and get offers to see if I am realistic in my desire to return to the practice of law.
If the legal profession is not ready for someone like me, then I will have to reassess. Until then, I am planning and living in the moment.
So now I am going to rock the boat by changing jobs? Why change the status quo when life is perfect right now?
Because it's time to take career to the next level. Am I a fool for wanting so much more than what I have? I don’t know, but what I do know is that the perfection in my life outside of work makes me want to improve my career.
Many people are cautioning me about the potential stress of a legal career. It’s too soon to have worries. In fact, right now, I am just trying to land interviews and get offers to see if I am realistic in my desire to return to the practice of law.
If the legal profession is not ready for someone like me, then I will have to reassess. Until then, I am planning and living in the moment.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
for now, I am joyous
"I don't care about who you were, I just want to get to know you now." Ugly Betty
Friday, April 27, 2007
thirst for knowledge
Work is getting eaiser in part because I finally made up my mind about leaving. My company has several very unique projects, but even awesome projects cannot make up for a sense of belonging.
Going back to the law is a way to find kindred spirits.
I do miss working in a law environment because of the kind of conversations one has with very analytical minds. Some of my closest friends practice law, and I appreciate their perspectives.
It's also about having fun with my work. I've hit a plateau in my career; I need more expertise to take it to the next level.
True, I'll work more hours, but the focus will allow me to do more. Why not take advantage of this time to grow, so the time comes to walk away, I'll have the option to scale back?
One step at a time. Let's see where the interviews take me...
Going back to the law is a way to find kindred spirits.
I do miss working in a law environment because of the kind of conversations one has with very analytical minds. Some of my closest friends practice law, and I appreciate their perspectives.
It's also about having fun with my work. I've hit a plateau in my career; I need more expertise to take it to the next level.
True, I'll work more hours, but the focus will allow me to do more. Why not take advantage of this time to grow, so the time comes to walk away, I'll have the option to scale back?
One step at a time. Let's see where the interviews take me...
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