Tonight, a friend told me about his latest round of "off" in his on-again, off-again relationship. Sigh. I teased him that his life is "drama, drama, drama," and he replied that he doesn't need any more drama.
Can't he see that after 2 years, the relationship isn't going to work. They aren't even engaged, and there are so many issues.
The bell-shaped theory of love! Realize that no matter how good the good is, if there is repeated negativity, move on.
Ironically, the friend wanted to go for a drive later today, and although I agreed, I am going to pass. I don't need to be the escape. To be a better friend, I am going to let him figure this one on his own.
Slowly, I see that I have been more positive this year b/c I have been able to capture all the goodness in others and let them get through the downs with distanced support. It's what I do for myself, get through tough patches on my own, with friends near by when I need it.
Oh yeah, Happy New Year!
Monday, January 01, 2007
Friday, December 29, 2006
no regrets
It's almost the new year, and I want to focus on good habits. The first one being forward-looking.
There are many things out of my control, such as when I will move on from this job. So, rather than focus on the status quo, I want to stay positive and change what I can.
The first is to network more. I just read about the Residential Builders Association in San Francisco in the newspaper and how they were the entity opposing some of the increased fees for residential developers.
Task list: find out as much as I can and possibly join the organization. First step: their website is under construction. Second step: found phone number and address. Third step: to contact the organization directly.
See, as soon as I move, there is no time to dwell on the status quo but to move forward.
I don't want to waste my most precious resource, my mental energy, on worrying or negative thoughts. My mental energy is to gather and to direct the other resources at my disposal: time, money, people and information.
So, in this last work day of 2006, I can look back with satisfaction that much has been done. Now I eager look forward and cannot wait for this next chapter of my life to begin.
There are many things out of my control, such as when I will move on from this job. So, rather than focus on the status quo, I want to stay positive and change what I can.
The first is to network more. I just read about the Residential Builders Association in San Francisco in the newspaper and how they were the entity opposing some of the increased fees for residential developers.
Task list: find out as much as I can and possibly join the organization. First step: their website is under construction. Second step: found phone number and address. Third step: to contact the organization directly.
See, as soon as I move, there is no time to dwell on the status quo but to move forward.
I don't want to waste my most precious resource, my mental energy, on worrying or negative thoughts. My mental energy is to gather and to direct the other resources at my disposal: time, money, people and information.
So, in this last work day of 2006, I can look back with satisfaction that much has been done. Now I eager look forward and cannot wait for this next chapter of my life to begin.
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
that little thrill
So my adventure on match is in full swing (no pun intended!). If any of it works out, then I am going to have to edit out all these posts, so read it while you can! hahaha.
Actually, these are just meant to be hypothesis about how this online dating is suppose to work.
I like online dating b/c the beginning is quite superficial and is all fate. I like the way someone looks or write, boom, I wink back. The initial rejections or non-responses are all taken in good humor, nothing personal.
First things first. The profile. Having edited others' and getting comments on mine, the profile needs to be short and positive. Nothing too long b/c it will just seem long-winded. Personally, I appreciate the profiles that reveal nothing specific yet gives a good picture of what the person is like.
Then, after making the initial contact, it's the e-mailing. You are just trying to get to the point where you'll meet. I am not a big fan of e-mailing, since it's all useless until you meet. Chemistry is the one thing that the web has not replaced. So many people write for eons only to be disappointed by the first date. Get thee to the first date.
I might be meeting someone this week already. Fun!
Actually, these are just meant to be hypothesis about how this online dating is suppose to work.
I like online dating b/c the beginning is quite superficial and is all fate. I like the way someone looks or write, boom, I wink back. The initial rejections or non-responses are all taken in good humor, nothing personal.
First things first. The profile. Having edited others' and getting comments on mine, the profile needs to be short and positive. Nothing too long b/c it will just seem long-winded. Personally, I appreciate the profiles that reveal nothing specific yet gives a good picture of what the person is like.
Then, after making the initial contact, it's the e-mailing. You are just trying to get to the point where you'll meet. I am not a big fan of e-mailing, since it's all useless until you meet. Chemistry is the one thing that the web has not replaced. So many people write for eons only to be disappointed by the first date. Get thee to the first date.
I might be meeting someone this week already. Fun!
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
am I boring you
Today, a friend suggested that I write about some of my useful tips about SF. Why? Is all this musing not useful to you?
For instance, when in SOMA, take Howard and Folsom rather than Mission, Harrison or Bryant because the lights are rigged to be green on those two streets. Every neighborhood in SF have the street(s) where the lights are timed to be green all the time.
Most people know about Fell and Oak. There is Sutter and Bush, Fulton (not Geary), Lincoln (not Irving), Van Ness in the Mission, etc. The trick is to know how to speed or slow down your car in order to hit all the green lights.
Or the shortcuts. Try some of the bus routes. Usually the bus routes are to avoid traffic jams. For instance, the 12 and the 10 bus go to the left lane on Folsom to avoid traffic going to the 80 Eastbound during commute hours.
The list is endless, but it's more fun for each person to discover them rather than me writing them down. Then again, maybe these are things people want to read??
For instance, when in SOMA, take Howard and Folsom rather than Mission, Harrison or Bryant because the lights are rigged to be green on those two streets. Every neighborhood in SF have the street(s) where the lights are timed to be green all the time.
Most people know about Fell and Oak. There is Sutter and Bush, Fulton (not Geary), Lincoln (not Irving), Van Ness in the Mission, etc. The trick is to know how to speed or slow down your car in order to hit all the green lights.
Or the shortcuts. Try some of the bus routes. Usually the bus routes are to avoid traffic jams. For instance, the 12 and the 10 bus go to the left lane on Folsom to avoid traffic going to the 80 Eastbound during commute hours.
The list is endless, but it's more fun for each person to discover them rather than me writing them down. Then again, maybe these are things people want to read??
Monday, December 25, 2006
how do you really know?
One question I wonder about is why so many people want to settle down. Is it something they really want, or is it merely peer pressure. It seems to be that more people are Lemmings than truly independent thinkers.
After all, how can you really want something if you never had it? How can people tell me that they want to have a significant other or a family when they may not know all the consequences of these choices?
I meet and at times date men who want to have a partner, yet most of them just want someone to fulfill their own goals. A partner is another human beings who have her own objectives too. I have not yet met a man who really want to compromise, at least not with an opinionated person like me.
Is that even possible, or am I just dating the wrong people? Is it Darwinism to try to find that one person who will help you achieve your goals, or is it merely how society has trained us to look at life partners?
Much of it is patterning after our parents. My parents are so giving that I see how my siblings definitely give more to their partners. It's one of the unresolved issues for the family: are we destined to put ourselves behind our partners because that's how my parents have taught us?
I was overly giving in many of my relationships, but now that my determination to achieve certain professional and personal goals is so great, I cannot even have a relationship. Or can I? Who will be that one person willin to compromise with me, or will I always give too much because that is my destiny? Ironic that my focus on my career will ensure that my future relationships will be more balanced than my siblings'.
After all, how can you really want something if you never had it? How can people tell me that they want to have a significant other or a family when they may not know all the consequences of these choices?
I meet and at times date men who want to have a partner, yet most of them just want someone to fulfill their own goals. A partner is another human beings who have her own objectives too. I have not yet met a man who really want to compromise, at least not with an opinionated person like me.
Is that even possible, or am I just dating the wrong people? Is it Darwinism to try to find that one person who will help you achieve your goals, or is it merely how society has trained us to look at life partners?
Much of it is patterning after our parents. My parents are so giving that I see how my siblings definitely give more to their partners. It's one of the unresolved issues for the family: are we destined to put ourselves behind our partners because that's how my parents have taught us?
I was overly giving in many of my relationships, but now that my determination to achieve certain professional and personal goals is so great, I cannot even have a relationship. Or can I? Who will be that one person willin to compromise with me, or will I always give too much because that is my destiny? Ironic that my focus on my career will ensure that my future relationships will be more balanced than my siblings'.
the perfect place
Being single in my 30s is absolutely wonderful! Who knew that dating would be so much better now than ever?
My own theory is that the pool of women in their 30s who are 1) financially independent, 2) not desparate to settle down, and 3) not psycho is so small that I actually have an advantage on the dating scene.
Yes, it helps to be fit. Still, I pity all the women who listened to their mothers and settled down before they have a chance to truly enjoy the best era of a woman's life: her 30s!!
The other night, I decided to eat by myself on a Saturday night, so I did. It was a lovely meal, and I didn't feel anything negative about dining alone. I am just too old to be wasting time having or indulging in negative emotions.
There are bigger fish to fry. I have so many big dreams right now that I cannot be bothered with useless yet common thoughts about not having a man. I am truly in a perfect place because my life is going to be a rocket taking off. I already have so much good accompany along for the ride that I don't mind not having a co-pilot for now. It's time to focus and make all my dreams come true!
My own theory is that the pool of women in their 30s who are 1) financially independent, 2) not desparate to settle down, and 3) not psycho is so small that I actually have an advantage on the dating scene.
Yes, it helps to be fit. Still, I pity all the women who listened to their mothers and settled down before they have a chance to truly enjoy the best era of a woman's life: her 30s!!
The other night, I decided to eat by myself on a Saturday night, so I did. It was a lovely meal, and I didn't feel anything negative about dining alone. I am just too old to be wasting time having or indulging in negative emotions.
There are bigger fish to fry. I have so many big dreams right now that I cannot be bothered with useless yet common thoughts about not having a man. I am truly in a perfect place because my life is going to be a rocket taking off. I already have so much good accompany along for the ride that I don't mind not having a co-pilot for now. It's time to focus and make all my dreams come true!
Sunday, December 24, 2006
right back at me
Had to confront the pressure that I impose on others when I pursue.
Ouch. That hurts.
Sorry to all the men that I push against the wall. My defense is that I was so taken with you!
Fortunately, that is no longer possible now, with this new life where I have less time. Given the importance I place on relationships, I don't want one right now. Anyone, man or woman, who thinks that I can be this ideal friend/significant other to them is mistaken.
It is all timing.
Next experiment: match. Should be fun!
Ouch. That hurts.
Sorry to all the men that I push against the wall. My defense is that I was so taken with you!
Fortunately, that is no longer possible now, with this new life where I have less time. Given the importance I place on relationships, I don't want one right now. Anyone, man or woman, who thinks that I can be this ideal friend/significant other to them is mistaken.
It is all timing.
Next experiment: match. Should be fun!
Saturday, December 23, 2006
burning question answered
Ran into the attorney that I had a huge crush on. He was with his dog...and his financee. There you go, taken. Upon hearing this story, my friend J said that I was lucky that I didn't do anyting. Yes, lucky indeed.
Life goes on.
Somewhat satisfied that I get to know every answer on my own terms. Have a feeling that the job situation is about to change...we'll see...
Life goes on.
Somewhat satisfied that I get to know every answer on my own terms. Have a feeling that the job situation is about to change...we'll see...
Friday, December 22, 2006
chasing men
Many of my friends don't understand why I chase after men who are not always eager to be my partner.
I don't pursue men to make them mine. In fact, I "pursue" women more than I do men. When I meet someone who can make me take notice, I want to get to know that person b/c they might be able to add to my life.
With women, it's easy; they become new girlfriends.
With men, it's a little harder. I've had a lot of men pass through my life because I didn't know how to just be their friends first and foremost. Some of the connections faded b/c neither party sees a romantic future.
Now I know better. For now, I am not suppose to have that one great love, that'll happen in due time. In this new phase of my life, it's all about enjoying people, especially all the amazing men in my life...
I don't pursue men to make them mine. In fact, I "pursue" women more than I do men. When I meet someone who can make me take notice, I want to get to know that person b/c they might be able to add to my life.
With women, it's easy; they become new girlfriends.
With men, it's a little harder. I've had a lot of men pass through my life because I didn't know how to just be their friends first and foremost. Some of the connections faded b/c neither party sees a romantic future.
Now I know better. For now, I am not suppose to have that one great love, that'll happen in due time. In this new phase of my life, it's all about enjoying people, especially all the amazing men in my life...
choices
For the first time in my life, I canceled a social event for work. I made plans with a friend for a special guided tour of a current museum exhibit at 5. After being out of the office all day, I found out about a conference call at 530. Usually I skip the calls if they conflict, but it felt important to be on that call.
It was not a rewarding choice. Not much came out of the call, and afterwards, as I was trying to give my two managers more input, it just didn't seem to matter.
Still, I am glad I experienced something people do everyday, give up their personal committment for work.
One thing that is great about my current job, it tests my values almost everyday. I am always myself, but I see clearly how that self belongs somewhere else. I belong in a place where being myself is the most valuable thing to that organization. I have that right now, in my personal life, so I am grateful.
It was not a rewarding choice. Not much came out of the call, and afterwards, as I was trying to give my two managers more input, it just didn't seem to matter.
Still, I am glad I experienced something people do everyday, give up their personal committment for work.
One thing that is great about my current job, it tests my values almost everyday. I am always myself, but I see clearly how that self belongs somewhere else. I belong in a place where being myself is the most valuable thing to that organization. I have that right now, in my personal life, so I am grateful.
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
relax
Watched a bit of Zoolander on TV last night, and the scene with the song Relax was funny. At the same time, that song feels like the perfect theme song for my life today.
It's been a while since I have been so relaxed. After a wonderful vacation and a visit to my masseuse, I am better than ever. Have a sports injury slowly healing, but I am no longer bogged down by the little things.
Why is that?
Perhaps I am finally able to let go of work. I recognized that work is not going to be the core of my identity right now. Yes I enjoys working, but I also value my life outside of work. Striking that balance was hard b/c I was measuring myself by the monetary and power status of those around me. Tough to view work objectively when I pressure myself to be something bigger than myself.
Right now, I just want to savor what I have in my life.
This holiday season, it's been a blessing to do so little. I have so little responsibilities right now. Even the idea of looking for a serious relationship seems ridiculous. I was mistaken. Just when I think I am ready for a significant other, the idea of just enjoying lots of men is still appealing. Why work at a relationship when I can have these loose ties?
It's a new stage in life, and I no longer call the shots. Yet I continue to gravitate toward the risks. Let's see what this next stage is all about.
It's been a while since I have been so relaxed. After a wonderful vacation and a visit to my masseuse, I am better than ever. Have a sports injury slowly healing, but I am no longer bogged down by the little things.
Why is that?
Perhaps I am finally able to let go of work. I recognized that work is not going to be the core of my identity right now. Yes I enjoys working, but I also value my life outside of work. Striking that balance was hard b/c I was measuring myself by the monetary and power status of those around me. Tough to view work objectively when I pressure myself to be something bigger than myself.
Right now, I just want to savor what I have in my life.
This holiday season, it's been a blessing to do so little. I have so little responsibilities right now. Even the idea of looking for a serious relationship seems ridiculous. I was mistaken. Just when I think I am ready for a significant other, the idea of just enjoying lots of men is still appealing. Why work at a relationship when I can have these loose ties?
It's a new stage in life, and I no longer call the shots. Yet I continue to gravitate toward the risks. Let's see what this next stage is all about.
Friday, December 15, 2006
all in stride
It's the holidays. I love how I don't have to shop for anyone; my family doesn't exchange gifts.
Definitely a time to reflect. There are so many things on my to-do list. Time to invest some resources on those things: Spanish, swimming, better health and most importantly, spirituality.
More and more, I see how all my deepest wishes have come true because I always kept an open mind as to what should be the final outcome.
We are not suppose to have the answers. By posing a sincere question, the universe answers in its own way.
For instance, in my community relations work, there is an artist to whom I wish to send a holiday card. She is a successful artist, one who manages to sell enough art work to sustain herself and her family. For some reason, I just couldn't find her physical address.
She had invited me to one of her recent shows, but it's almost an hour drive away. As luck would have it, the gallery is near my parents' home, so I was able to view the show during one of my visits home. Just in time as the show closes this week.
As part of the introductory material, this artist had include her business card with her physical address on it! I was able to write her a nice note that very afternoon.
Life is full of these small wonders. A book that speaks to this wonder is When God Winks: How the Power of Coincidence Guides Your Life. I am not religious, but this book describes exactly my belief that there is something greater than ourselves.
The key about spirituality is the power it gives us. I have complete faith in myself, and that is significant considering that I wasn't always so sure of myself. When I care about someone else, that is the same power that I hope to bestow onto them. To know that whatever happens, I will be all right is pure joy.
Definitely a time to reflect. There are so many things on my to-do list. Time to invest some resources on those things: Spanish, swimming, better health and most importantly, spirituality.
More and more, I see how all my deepest wishes have come true because I always kept an open mind as to what should be the final outcome.
We are not suppose to have the answers. By posing a sincere question, the universe answers in its own way.
For instance, in my community relations work, there is an artist to whom I wish to send a holiday card. She is a successful artist, one who manages to sell enough art work to sustain herself and her family. For some reason, I just couldn't find her physical address.
She had invited me to one of her recent shows, but it's almost an hour drive away. As luck would have it, the gallery is near my parents' home, so I was able to view the show during one of my visits home. Just in time as the show closes this week.
As part of the introductory material, this artist had include her business card with her physical address on it! I was able to write her a nice note that very afternoon.
Life is full of these small wonders. A book that speaks to this wonder is When God Winks: How the Power of Coincidence Guides Your Life. I am not religious, but this book describes exactly my belief that there is something greater than ourselves.
The key about spirituality is the power it gives us. I have complete faith in myself, and that is significant considering that I wasn't always so sure of myself. When I care about someone else, that is the same power that I hope to bestow onto them. To know that whatever happens, I will be all right is pure joy.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
cause and effect
Blogging has changed me in a fundamental way. The habit of just freely speak my mind has infiltrated every aspect of my life. It used to be that I share my life with just a few select people and have many peripheral friends. Now that I have been writing freely for nearly a year online and for the last 20 years via a journal, I am truly myself all the time.
The one positive externality of open self expression is that I can see everything so clearly and adapt accordingly. For instance, today during yet another long mediation session, I was able to see how everyone else's complete absorption in the litigation created so much unnecessary stress. The mediator told us that he woke up at 5 in the morning thinking about the case!
I just cannot get stressed out about work any more. Like the dating, it's just another natural cycle of life that will come and go.
Of course, the best part to the mediation session is flirting with the attractive environmental attorney. It's fun to have a crush on someone. The crush will too pass, but it certainly has been a delicious rush interacting with him.
Psyched that I beat out jet lag completely from the trip. The trick is to not sleep or sleep very little the night or two nights before and use the travel time to sleep to the time of the destination. That and fueling with healthy diet throughout the trip and after arrival!
The one positive externality of open self expression is that I can see everything so clearly and adapt accordingly. For instance, today during yet another long mediation session, I was able to see how everyone else's complete absorption in the litigation created so much unnecessary stress. The mediator told us that he woke up at 5 in the morning thinking about the case!
I just cannot get stressed out about work any more. Like the dating, it's just another natural cycle of life that will come and go.
Of course, the best part to the mediation session is flirting with the attractive environmental attorney. It's fun to have a crush on someone. The crush will too pass, but it certainly has been a delicious rush interacting with him.
Psyched that I beat out jet lag completely from the trip. The trick is to not sleep or sleep very little the night or two nights before and use the travel time to sleep to the time of the destination. That and fueling with healthy diet throughout the trip and after arrival!
the best vacation ever
I came back from a week-long vacation, and it was what I needed.
Being relaxed completely was so nice. Mostly, I spent time with family, ate, slept and read. Most importantly, my soul got a break to rediscover what is truly important to me.
So silly that I have been caught up by work and my emotional responses to work that I forgot that my life has never been just about work. Taiwan has a Lemmings culture, where everyone has similar outlook. That similarity reminded me that I was trying to emulate a lot of workaholics I know.
I have never been one to follow the norm. It's okay to have my own rules about work and play. I'll probably not be rich because of my insistence on having fun, but I will continue to be happy.
This was also a trip to focus on financial goals. Need to start to think about how to finance my dream to take a year off and live in South America in the next five years!!
Being relaxed completely was so nice. Mostly, I spent time with family, ate, slept and read. Most importantly, my soul got a break to rediscover what is truly important to me.
So silly that I have been caught up by work and my emotional responses to work that I forgot that my life has never been just about work. Taiwan has a Lemmings culture, where everyone has similar outlook. That similarity reminded me that I was trying to emulate a lot of workaholics I know.
I have never been one to follow the norm. It's okay to have my own rules about work and play. I'll probably not be rich because of my insistence on having fun, but I will continue to be happy.
This was also a trip to focus on financial goals. Need to start to think about how to finance my dream to take a year off and live in South America in the next five years!!
Monday, December 04, 2006
being different
This past weekend, I went snowboarding with some friends, mostly guys. It was a blast.
One reason why I am so comfortable being around men is that men tend to embrace each other's differences. Many men get a kick out of being outrageous around their closest friends.
Unfortunatley, the same cannot be said for all women. In fact, I have worked harder on my female friendships b/c when I find that special woman who can let me be me, I court her. I put more effort into my female friendships b/c it is rare for me to find those few who appreciate my refusal to conform.
This year, I have definitely come into my own, with the help of all my friends. With such a wide range of friends, I finally figured out who I am. Although continuing to grow at a rapid pace and unable to stay still, I like this place that I am in right now. I do whatever I want, and I do it on my terms.
True, I cannot control a lot of things and people in my life, but I have absolute control over my mind and my actions. There is an incredible freedom in being able to follow my gut every step of the way and just know what to do in every situation.
This past weekend, snowboarding on runs that I couldn't even imagine just a year ago was such a high. Last year, in order to make it to the blacks, I took two days off work and lived in Tahoe all by myself for 2 nights. Taking private lessons in the middle of the week was what got me to master snowboarding. I am still not true black yet, but this is the season that I want to be good enough to travel the world and snowboard at resorts outside of Tahoe.
What's your dream? Dare to be different, but step up to the challenge and make those dreams your reality.
One reason why I am so comfortable being around men is that men tend to embrace each other's differences. Many men get a kick out of being outrageous around their closest friends.
Unfortunatley, the same cannot be said for all women. In fact, I have worked harder on my female friendships b/c when I find that special woman who can let me be me, I court her. I put more effort into my female friendships b/c it is rare for me to find those few who appreciate my refusal to conform.
This year, I have definitely come into my own, with the help of all my friends. With such a wide range of friends, I finally figured out who I am. Although continuing to grow at a rapid pace and unable to stay still, I like this place that I am in right now. I do whatever I want, and I do it on my terms.
True, I cannot control a lot of things and people in my life, but I have absolute control over my mind and my actions. There is an incredible freedom in being able to follow my gut every step of the way and just know what to do in every situation.
This past weekend, snowboarding on runs that I couldn't even imagine just a year ago was such a high. Last year, in order to make it to the blacks, I took two days off work and lived in Tahoe all by myself for 2 nights. Taking private lessons in the middle of the week was what got me to master snowboarding. I am still not true black yet, but this is the season that I want to be good enough to travel the world and snowboard at resorts outside of Tahoe.
What's your dream? Dare to be different, but step up to the challenge and make those dreams your reality.
Thursday, November 30, 2006
small victories
Last night, I swam more than I ever did - eight laps of freestyle!
Due to an accident at my first swimming lesson, I hate putting my face in the water. So whenever I was in the pool, it was with a lifesaver or backstroke.
After watching Riding Giants, a surfing movie, two years ago, I knew that I will one day want to learn to surf. Well, got to swim first.
Even living at great places with pools, I never could go for more than 2 laps. It's just so traumatizing.
Well, with a friend's encouragement and her great pool, I finally did it! It was a break through for me. Today, I have been on cloud nine. Who knew that it took something so small to change my whole outlook? Cannot wait to go to Hawaii and learn to surf next!
Due to an accident at my first swimming lesson, I hate putting my face in the water. So whenever I was in the pool, it was with a lifesaver or backstroke.
After watching Riding Giants, a surfing movie, two years ago, I knew that I will one day want to learn to surf. Well, got to swim first.
Even living at great places with pools, I never could go for more than 2 laps. It's just so traumatizing.
Well, with a friend's encouragement and her great pool, I finally did it! It was a break through for me. Today, I have been on cloud nine. Who knew that it took something so small to change my whole outlook? Cannot wait to go to Hawaii and learn to surf next!
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
the art of rejection
I have been polling my friends about how to reject men romantically. The one drawback about going on lots of dates with people is that there are rejections, on both sides. Almost everyone says to be direct, but I tried that and just don't think it's me.
I've been rejected enough times to know that it's not fun being on the receiving end of one of _those_ speech. One cannot be nice about it.
What's easier is to allow people to see for themselves why the relationship would never work. I am always my crazy self, so more often than not, men know exactly why they wouldn't want to be involved with me long term...
Besides, it cannot be easy to date someone who is just not quite ready to settle down just yet...
I've been rejected enough times to know that it's not fun being on the receiving end of one of _those_ speech. One cannot be nice about it.
What's easier is to allow people to see for themselves why the relationship would never work. I am always my crazy self, so more often than not, men know exactly why they wouldn't want to be involved with me long term...
Besides, it cannot be easy to date someone who is just not quite ready to settle down just yet...
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
candlestick stadium plan
Watch it at
http://sanfrancisco.granicus.com/ViewPublisher.php?view_id=10
11/21 Board of Supervisors Hearing Item #31
Or read about it
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/11/22/BAGM1MI1FR1.DTL
http://sanfrancisco.granicus.com/ViewPublisher.php?view_id=10
11/21 Board of Supervisors Hearing Item #31
Or read about it
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/11/22/BAGM1MI1FR1.DTL
warm and fuzzy feeling
I don't much like surprises. I read movie reviews before I watch them, and I don't go to restaurants without a recommendation.
Last night, my date and I went to a restaurant on a whim. What a pleasant surprise! It was one of the best meals ever; the food and the service were excellent. Who knew this little place in a strip mall would have that rare combination of great food and causal atmosphere?
It was a simple yet magical night. It's surprising to meet someone so different from me yet so similar. Most men I meet expect something from me, either my time or my company or what I can do for them. I once lived to please other people. Not any more, so even though I meet plenty of great guys, no one has been quite right. Conversely, when I expected too much at times, the dating experiences have turned sour.
So, it's a new beginning. I don't know what's going to happen, but I've learned to be patient and let life unfolds. For now, I am very, very happy...
Last night, my date and I went to a restaurant on a whim. What a pleasant surprise! It was one of the best meals ever; the food and the service were excellent. Who knew this little place in a strip mall would have that rare combination of great food and causal atmosphere?
It was a simple yet magical night. It's surprising to meet someone so different from me yet so similar. Most men I meet expect something from me, either my time or my company or what I can do for them. I once lived to please other people. Not any more, so even though I meet plenty of great guys, no one has been quite right. Conversely, when I expected too much at times, the dating experiences have turned sour.
So, it's a new beginning. I don't know what's going to happen, but I've learned to be patient and let life unfolds. For now, I am very, very happy...
Monday, November 20, 2006
different priorities
Had another 12-hour work day. Didn't even make it to the office. Was at an expert witness' office and then in mediation session all day.
We were so close, but still no settlement. I got mad and blew up just a bit at all the attorneys at the end of the day.
Still, it was a great day. I confirmed a date for tomorrow night, and one of the attorneys on our team and I were flirting with each other. This is the same guy that I had a crush on a while back when we hired him for another project. He is on board for this lawsuit to help with the technical aspects of the settlement.
This attorney, our litigation attorney and me were stuck at the mediator's office for 8 hours! Glad I got to have some fun while there. It was so close b/c we had a settlement agreement almost all ready to go, but then the other side came back with a completely new term sheet and wouldn't give us an extension on some motions due tomorrow. Our litigation attorney went back to the office to work tonight...
Even though I had previously believed that this environmental attorney had an SO, it was clear that he is single and looking. Now I am even more motivated to find a new job, so I can date him. Even though there are no rules against attorneys dating their clients, I would rather be a non-client before becoming a romantic prospect.
Anyways, looking forward to tomorrow. Definitely excited about the date with yet another prospect...
We were so close, but still no settlement. I got mad and blew up just a bit at all the attorneys at the end of the day.
Still, it was a great day. I confirmed a date for tomorrow night, and one of the attorneys on our team and I were flirting with each other. This is the same guy that I had a crush on a while back when we hired him for another project. He is on board for this lawsuit to help with the technical aspects of the settlement.
This attorney, our litigation attorney and me were stuck at the mediator's office for 8 hours! Glad I got to have some fun while there. It was so close b/c we had a settlement agreement almost all ready to go, but then the other side came back with a completely new term sheet and wouldn't give us an extension on some motions due tomorrow. Our litigation attorney went back to the office to work tonight...
Even though I had previously believed that this environmental attorney had an SO, it was clear that he is single and looking. Now I am even more motivated to find a new job, so I can date him. Even though there are no rules against attorneys dating their clients, I would rather be a non-client before becoming a romantic prospect.
Anyways, looking forward to tomorrow. Definitely excited about the date with yet another prospect...
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